{"id":225,"date":"2010-05-19T22:15:00","date_gmt":"2010-05-19T22:15:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/gailcarsonlevine.com\/blog\/2010\/05\/19\/im-boy\/"},"modified":"2015-05-23T23:17:15","modified_gmt":"2015-05-23T23:17:15","slug":"im-boy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/gailcarsonlevine.com\/blog\/2010\/05\/19\/im-boy\/","title":{"rendered":"I&#8217;m a boy!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>On March 13, 2010, Mya wrote,&nbsp; One more question:&nbsp; Though I don&#8217;t know why, most of my characters are boys. The only problem with this is that sometimes, I can&#8217;t tell how TO write&#8212;think&#8212;like a boy to portray him correctly. Do you have any advice on writing from a different gender&#8217;s perspective?<\/p>\n<p>And on April 21, 2010, Silver the Wanderer wrote,&nbsp; I&#8217;m a girl, but my whole novel is written from the point of view of a guy. Sometimes, I&#8217;m afraid of making his thoughts and dialogue sound too girly and\/or out of character. Do you have any suggestions pertaining to this?<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re a boy or man reading the blog, please post your ideas on this subject.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve written from male points of view several times.&nbsp; In my historical novel<i> Dave at Night<\/i>, the POV character is an eleven-year-old boy.&nbsp; My loosely historical fantasy<i> Ever<\/i> alternates chapter by chapter between a male and a female character.&nbsp; And my <i>Princess Tales<\/i>, while told in third person, shift back and forth in each book from the male and female leads.<\/p>\n<p>Each of these male characters is different from the others, just as every real boy is different from every other boy.&nbsp; Obviously same for girls.&nbsp; As I wrote in my post about writing characters older than you, one sixty-year-old will not be like another, and certainly not just because both are sixty.<\/p>\n<p>This gives you a lot of freedom.<\/p>\n<p>In <i>Dave at Night<\/i>, the main character, Dave of course, is based on my father, whose name was also Dave.&nbsp; I imagined my father as a boy, and as I wrote I had him firmly in mind.&nbsp; Because I knew what kind of man he was &#8211; spunky, smart, kindhearted, stubborn, diffident &#8211; I was able to intuit the boy he would have been.&nbsp; My father didn\u2019t express his masculinity in bluster.&nbsp; In the novel he defeats a bully, but not by fighting, by his wits.<\/p>\n<p>So it may help you to have a particular boy or man in mind when you write your male character.&nbsp; Or you can combine people you know.&nbsp; Write down the qualities that make them themselves.&nbsp; How might these characteristics mark them as male on the page?&nbsp; Think of the way particular boys and girls or men and women in your life behave when they\u2019re angry or arguing or when something lovely has happened.&nbsp; Compare your male teachers with your female teachers or your male colleagues with your female ones.&nbsp; Or the male and female members of your family.&nbsp; Think not only of their inner selves, but also their outer.&nbsp; Watch the way people stand, sit, walk, run.&nbsp; Girls are sometimes accused of running or throwing \u201clike a girl.\u201d&nbsp; Go beyond the stereotype to what you actually see.&nbsp; Listen to conversations.&nbsp; Obviously most males, once their voices change, speak in a lower register.&nbsp; Listen to what\u2019s said, what\u2019s emphasized, which topics are chosen.<\/p>\n<p>In my mystery, <i>A Tale of Two Castles<\/i>, coming out in 2011, the dragon Meenore keeps ITs gender secret, but, without intending to, I\u2019ve made IT read more masculine than feminine.&nbsp; In revision I\u2019ve added a few touches to muddy matters.&nbsp; IT bows to Count Jonty Um, the ogre, and then follows the bow with a curtsy.&nbsp; I make IT like to play knucklebones (like jacks), a girl\u2019s game.<\/p>\n<p>These two examples are shortcuts rather than deeply rooted character traits.&nbsp; We need shortcuts because we don\u2019t have an eternity to establish our characters.&nbsp; But shortcuts can tend toward stereotype, so use them with care.&nbsp; Here are a few that come to my mind.&nbsp; You can think of more of your own.&nbsp; Many boys and men, even in our enlightened twenty-first century, are more restrained about crying and more embarrassed when they do cry than girls and women are.&nbsp; In dialogue a male character may be less expansive about his feelings.&nbsp; He may make them known, but maybe not in long paragraphs with many explanations.&nbsp; He may use bigger gestures or have more explosive pent-up energy.&nbsp; I once read that women laugh more in the presence of men, and that men are less likely to laugh at a woman\u2019s jokes.&nbsp; See if you find this to be true.&nbsp; Along the same lines, I read that women want their men to be funny, and men don\u2019t say they care if their women can make them laugh.&nbsp; But of course these are generalizations.<\/p>\n<p>It will help if you establish your character as male clearly at the start of your story.&nbsp; Don\u2019t give him a name that could belong either to a boy or to a girl, for example.&nbsp; Find a way to describe him early on.&nbsp; Say that he\u2019s the shortest or tallest boy in his class, for instance.&nbsp; Have somebody say something to him that demonstrates we have a guy here.&nbsp; The reader will help you once she\u2019s clued in.&nbsp; Unless you go far off gender, whatever he says, she\u2019ll hear your boy saying it.&nbsp; Whatever he does, she\u2019ll see your man doing it.<\/p>\n<p>If your main character is male, you may have an easier time by writing in third person.&nbsp; You\u2019ll still have to reveal his thoughts and feelings, but you won\u2019t be living inside his head and giving him your feminine ideas and responses.&nbsp; If you\u2019ve been writing in first, try switching to third and see what happens.<\/p>\n<p>When you write a scene or when you go back to revise it, picture your character.&nbsp; Does he read as male for you?&nbsp; If not, what can you do?&nbsp; Change his dialogue?&nbsp; He may need to say whatever he was saying, but he can say it in different words.&nbsp; Or maybe the setting is wrong, and simply by moving him, he will be changed.&nbsp; Or you can give him something to do while the scene is moving forward that will feel masculine, assembling a model airplane, raking leaves, digging for buried treasure (not that girls can\u2019t do any of these things).<\/p>\n<p>When you\u2019re ready, ask a guy to look at what you\u2019ve written and point out to you where the character feels female.&nbsp; If you\u2019re never going to be ready to do this, you can be more subtle:&nbsp; Ask a few people of both sexes how they think a male character would act and think and feel in the situation you\u2019ve set up in your story.<\/p>\n<p>This has been a touchy topic, because for every characteristic I suggest as masculine there are a lot of women who have it.&nbsp; But it is the sum of the person that you\u2019re going for, not one trait or another.&nbsp; Blog readers, please chime in if you have more ideas for Mya and Silver the Wanderer.&nbsp; If you are an actual man or boy, what do you think?<\/p>\n<p>Here are prompts:<\/p>\n<p>\u2022&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Your male main character is assigned to work on a project with another male character he dislikes.&nbsp; Make up the project.&nbsp; Write what happens.<\/p>\n<p>\u2022&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; A male character is trying to release his male friend from the clutches of a possessive female centaur.&nbsp; Invent the circumstances:&nbsp; where they are, what the centaur\u2019s powers are, how the friend is trapped.&nbsp; Write the scene in first person from his point of view.&nbsp; Now write the same scene, making the male characters female and the female character male..<\/p>\n<p>\u2022&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Write a male Cinderella story: two mean stepbrothers, a mean stepfather, a wizard godfather.&nbsp; See where you take the story.<\/p>\n<p>Have fun, and save what you write!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>On March 13, 2010, Mya wrote,&nbsp; One more question:&nbsp; Though I don&#8217;t know why, most of my characters are boys. 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