{"id":213,"date":"2010-08-11T15:08:00","date_gmt":"2010-08-11T15:08:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/gailcarsonlevine.com\/blog\/2010\/08\/11\/death-and-dying\/"},"modified":"2015-05-23T23:17:15","modified_gmt":"2015-05-23T23:17:15","slug":"death-and-dying","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/gailcarsonlevine.com\/blog\/2010\/08\/11\/death-and-dying\/","title":{"rendered":"Death and Dying"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>On April 16, 2010, Ezmirelda wrote, <i>How do you kill a character you&#8217;ve become attached to? If the plot needs for a certain character to die how do you do it? Have you ever done it before?<\/i><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve killed characters, but not many.&nbsp; The mother dies early on in <i>Ella Enchanted<\/i> and in <i>The Princess Test<\/i>, and Dave\u2019s father dies at the beginning of <i>Dave at Night<\/i>.&nbsp; A few characters bite the dust in <i>The Two Princesses of Bamarre<\/i>, but I won\u2019t say which ones for those who haven\u2019t read the book.&nbsp; I\u2019ve even knocked off a few fairies, tra la, in the Disney <i>Fairies<\/i> series.<\/p>\n<p>Getting very serious &#8211; briefly &#8211; people I love have died, real people.&nbsp; I\u2019m sure many of you have lost loved ones too.&nbsp; My father died when I was thirty-eight, my mother when I was thirty-nine.&nbsp; Their deaths were a long time ago; I\u2019m sixty-two now.&nbsp; But I still miss them and think of them often.&nbsp; A situation arises, and I imagine what my father would make of it.&nbsp; In a group of people, it often seems to me I\u2019m observing through my mother\u2019s eyes.&nbsp; Sometimes I picture their astonishment at the technological miracles that have come along since their deaths.&nbsp; The frustration of course is that I can guess what they might say and do; I make them characters in my internal narrative, but I can never be sure if I\u2019m correct.&nbsp; Their absence in flesh and blood will remain sad forever.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re feeling pain at the prospect of killing a character you love, I hope you\u2019ll take comfort.&nbsp; When characters die, they\u2019re not fully dead.&nbsp; I &#8211; or you &#8211; can bring the dead back to life in imagination.&nbsp; I can make up a new flashback or write out future scenes as if the character hadn\u2019t died.&nbsp; Take Ella\u2019s mother, for example, I could write her first meeting with Ella\u2019s father, Sir Peter.&nbsp; Maybe she\u2019s heard rumors about him.&nbsp; People say he\u2019s dangerous, so she\u2019s curious.&nbsp; Before the ball where he is to be, she dresses with particular care, to Mandy\u2019s dismay.&nbsp; They dance, and she finds the courage to flirt.&nbsp; She tells him about her day, her family, secrets she\u2019s kept for years.&nbsp; His eyes never leave her face.&nbsp; He smiles and compliments her.&nbsp; She hasn\u2019t lost her sense of humor, so she tells herself that this is ridiculous and happening too quickly.&nbsp; Alarms are going off, but she\u2019s taken in anyway.&nbsp; If I like, I can write what she says and how he answers.<\/p>\n<p>Or I can jump ahead and bring the mother back for Ella\u2019s wedding.&nbsp; The reader can see her joy at her daughter happiness.&nbsp; And so on.<\/p>\n<p>You honor your beloved dead character by making the reader love him too.&nbsp; Don\u2019t hold back on giving him qualities you adore, and go easy on the faults.&nbsp; In <i>Dave at Night<\/i>, I made Dave\u2019s father pretty saintly, so the reader would feel Dave\u2019s grief.&nbsp; You can make the character\u2019s faults endearing ones.&nbsp; Even a villain can be lovable if you make the reader understand the villainy and see where it comes from.&nbsp; It is fine to do in a character for plot reasons, but make the death resonate if this is an important character.&nbsp; What we don\u2019t want to do is rush the death to reduce our own pain.&nbsp; Death is an occasion for wallowing.<\/p>\n<p>You can soothe your pain by keeping the dead character in the reader\u2019s memory.&nbsp; I hate when an author forgets to do this.&nbsp; The character dies; the story is sad for ten pages, and then the character is hardly mentioned again.&nbsp; The consequence is that the living characters who appear to have forgotten the dead one come off as unfeeling.&nbsp; I\u2019ve seen this in thrillers.&nbsp; In the first chapter the hero\u2019s wife is killed.&nbsp; He sets off to avenge her death, which is the whole reason for the book, but the adventure takes over and he stops thinking of her.&nbsp; And I think, How crummy is this!&nbsp; If you go the other way and have the character remembered, whoever is doing the remembering becomes more sympathetic, generally a benefit.<\/p>\n<p>The treatment of a character\u2019s death is masterful in <i>A Bridge to Terabithia<\/i> by Katherine Paterson.&nbsp; I read it a long time ago, so I just read a plot summary and almost cried.&nbsp; If you haven\u2019t read the book, it is marvelous.<\/p>\n<p>Guilt often accompanies death.&nbsp; For example, the sole survivor of a car crash is likely to be burdened with guilt, even if he wasn\u2019t driving.&nbsp; He may play out in his mind many scenarios that don\u2019t end in an accident.&nbsp; If I\u2019d done this, said that, he may think, we wouldn\u2019t even have gotten in the car.&nbsp; If I hadn\u2019t turned on the radio&#8230;&nbsp; If I had stopped her from answering her cell phone&#8230;&nbsp; When you build in guilt, you make the death more believable.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve been a little prescriptive in saying how to treat a death.&nbsp; Each story is different, and you may need to handle it differently.&nbsp; You may have a main character who can\u2019t deal with sadness and deliberately buries the feelings.&nbsp; Disconnection from feeling may keep the dead character in mind as effectively as wallowing.&nbsp; Oh, we think as we read, he\u2019s being callous because he\u2019s in pain.&nbsp; Why pain?&nbsp; Oh, yes, because Juliette died.<\/p>\n<p>Or you may find another approach that works. <\/p>\n<p>Another option, naturally, is not to kill off the character.&nbsp; You may be able to get rid of him without an actual death.&nbsp; Sometimes a character has to die.&nbsp; You feel it as you\u2019re writing.&nbsp; But sometimes there are other options.&nbsp; He can move away.&nbsp; He and your main character can argue irreconcilably and separate forever.&nbsp; He can live, but he\u2019s in a coma and no one knows if he\u2019ll ever recover.&nbsp; It\u2019s worth thinking about why you want to kill him and why you\u2019re hesitating.&nbsp; If you let him live, you can bring him back into the story later on.<\/p>\n<p><i>Ever<\/i>, my Mesopotamian fantasy, could have been a tragedy.&nbsp; Initially, I thought it would be, but I couldn\u2019t go that way, so I steered the story in another direction.&nbsp; Tragedy was too bleak for my temperament.&nbsp; Someday this may change.<\/p>\n<p>As for how my characters have died, I\u2019ve used disease, incineration, a fall, disbelief (in the case of one of the Never fairies), battle, even overeating, and maybe I\u2019m leaving out a few.&nbsp; No murder and no humans killing humans even in battle.&nbsp; In fact, I haven\u2019t staged any battles between peoples, only people against monsters.&nbsp; So far I haven\u2019t had the stomach for it, but that may change, too.<\/p>\n<p>I haven\u2019t treated any of the deaths clinically, but there are resources that can help you get inside dying.&nbsp; For one of my books, won\u2019t say which, I needed to know about poisons and their effects, and I found plenty online.&nbsp; Just now I googled \u201chow to write a death scene,\u201d and many entries popped up.&nbsp; I also found a book series called <i>Howdunit<\/i>, which is for mystery writers but which would probably have other writing uses.<\/p>\n<p>Here are three deadly prompts:<\/p>\n<p>\u2022&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Your main character\u2019s best friend died of a rare cancer a year ago.&nbsp; Write notes about the impact this might be having on her.&nbsp; Write a scene showing these effects.&nbsp; Write a session between her and a grief counselor.<\/p>\n<p>\u2022&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Think about killing off a character in a story you\u2019re working on.&nbsp; Consider which character might die and what the consequences would be for your story.&nbsp; Write notes about this.&nbsp; Write the death scene.&nbsp; (You don\u2019t have to really use it.)<\/p>\n<p>\u2022&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; This may not be to everyone\u2019s taste &#8211; this entire post may not be &#8211; but for the lighter side of death, write from the vantage point of a happy arch villain who is joyously plotting a murder.&nbsp; Get inside her, the more gruesome you can be, the better.&nbsp; Make the character she is planning to kill a great humanitarian whose death will be an enormous loss for all mankind.<\/p>\n<p>Have fun, and save what you write!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>On April 16, 2010, Ezmirelda wrote, How do you kill a character you&#8217;ve become attached to? If the plot needs for a certain character to die how do you do it? Have you ever done it before? 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